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An interview with Dr. Bob Wentworth, Trainer, NVC

Non-violent Communication (NVC) is based on the principles of non-violence — the natural state of compassion when no violence is present in the heart.

NVC begins by assuming that we are all compassionate by nature and that violent strategies—whether verbal or physical—are learned behaviors taught and supported by the prevailing culture. NVC also assumes that we all share the same, basic human needs, and that each of our actions are a strategy to meet one or more of these needs.

People who practice NVC have found greater authenticity in their communication, increased understanding, deepening connection and conflict resolution.

Dr Bob Wentworth


Debunking Handbook

Debunking myths is problematic. Unless great care is taken, any effort to debunk
misinformation can inadvertently reinforce the very myths one seeks to correct. To
avoid these “backfire effects”, an effective debunking requires three major elements.
First, the refutation must focus on core facts rather than the myth to avoid the
misinformation becoming more familiar. Second, any mention of a myth should be
preceded by explicit warnings to notify the reader that the upcoming information is
false. Finally, the refutation should include an alternative explanation that accounts
for important qualities in the original misinformation.

Looking for a compromise

When we disagree with someone we have several choices to make. Do I want to make them change their mind? Do I need to have my own way? Am I willing to listen to the other point of view?

If we are able to free ourselves from the fear of anger, we can look for solutions to the conflict. Often the fear takes control and there is no way to resolve the issue. Freedom from fear is freedom to choose.

Family on thebeach

How do we get along?

Cooperation is a big word. In a world where most of the people we see are strangers, it’s easy to forget that everyone has someone that they cooperate with. It may be the boss. It may be the neighbor. It may be a brother or sister or mother or father. What makes these people cooperate with us?

Well … sometimes they don’t cooperate with us. There are always conflicts that we have to deal with. The question is how do we respond to the conflict?